Become an au pair: Step-by-step guide

Do you want to become an au pair and spend an unforgettable time abroad? This guide walks you through every step, from the first idea to the day you board your flight. Whether you aim for Germany, the USA, France or another country, the basic steps are similar everywhere.

Step 1: Check your eligibility

Before you apply, make sure you meet the basic requirements:

  • Age: Usually 18‑30 years (in Germany and the USA up to 26)
  • Language skills: Basic knowledge of the host‑country language (at least A1‑A2)
  • Child‑care experience: Minimum 200 documented hours (babysitting, tutoring, youth work, sibling care)
  • Education: Completed school education
  • Health: Good health (a medical certificate is often required)
  • Criminal record: Clean police record
  • Motivation: Genuine interest in cultural exchange and child care

Step 2: Create your profile on AuPairMatch

A strong profile is key to a successful application. Here’s how to build a compelling one:

  • Profile photos: Friendly, recent pictures, preferably also with children (with permission)
  • Description: Write about yourself, your interests, your motivation and your experience with kids
  • Languages: List all languages you speak with an honest self‑assessment of level
  • Availability: When can you start? How long do you want to stay?
  • Preferences: Which country? City or countryside? Toddlers or older children?

Step 3: Find suitable host families

Use AuPairMatch’s matching feature to discover families that fit you. Pay attention to:

  • Number and age of the children
  • Location and surroundings
  • Expectations for working hours and duties
  • Language preferences and hobbies
  • Reviews and quality rating

Step 4: Video interview with the family

The video interview is one of the most important steps. It’s where you get to know each other. Tips:

  • Prepare questions (daily routine, expectations, free time, house rules)
  • Show interest in the kids—ask about their hobbies and interests
  • Be honest about your experience and expectations
  • Use AuPairMatch’s built‑in video‑call function for secure conversations
  • Have at least 2‑3 video calls before making a decision

Step 5: Check visa requirements

Depending on the destination, you may need a visa. Start researching early:

  • EU citizens in EU countries: No visa required
  • Germany: Specific au pair visa for non‑EU citizens
  • USA: J‑1 visa through a sponsor agency
  • France: Long‑term visa with an au pair agreement (“convention d'accueil”)
  • Netherlands: Residence permit via an IND‑approved agency

AuPairMatch automatically shows you the visa requirements based on your nationality and destination.

Step 6: Sign the au pair contract

A written contract protects both parties. It should cover:

  • Working hours and days off
  • Pocket money and additional benefits
  • Duties and responsibilities
  • Vacation and public holidays
  • Notice periods
  • Language course and further training
  • Insurance

Step 7: Prepare for departure

Once everything is agreed, get ready for your adventure:

  • Book your flight (early, as prices can rise)
  • Organize all documents (passport, visa, insurance proof, contract)
  • Pack wisely: you’ll live abroad for a year, but you don’t need to bring everything
  • Start a language course if you haven’t already
  • Connect with other au pairs (e.g., in AuPairMatch groups)
  • Say goodbye to family and friends—but don’t worry, you’re only a video call away!

Ready to get started?

The first step is the easiest: Create your free profile on AuPairMatch and start searching for your perfect host family. Thousands of families worldwide are looking for an au pair like you right now.